How To Help A Sensitive Child ?

 

As you probably know already, parenting a highly sensitive child demands care and attention.

Follow these tips to handle him tactfully:

1. Acknowledge His Feelings
• Your kid has a high range of emotions running, and you have to tune in as a parent. Understand your child’s feelings. It is one of the first steps you need to take when you want to adopt the right parenting approach toward your highly sensitive child.
• Your child may feel emotional all the time, but remember the instances when you felt hurt and someone failed to understand that. Let your child know that you understand what he feels.

2. Don’t Try To Change Him
• For you, it may not be a great thing to be highly sensitive, but for your child, it is a way of life. As a parent, you may worry that being highly sensitive can hurt your child most of the times. It is perfectly understandable. But you also need to realize that this trait is not something your child can just delete.
• If you try and force your child to change, it will only make him retract into his shell. He will think you disapprove his behavior, and it will make him feel more guilty and quiet.
• Accept and love your child the way he is. Make him feel happy and proud, and not a misfit.

3. Reassure Him
• Tell your child that you love him no matter what. Use your words and actions to show your child that you love him just the way he is.
• Your child may sometimes feel he is different from others, and it can be quite a dismal thought for him.

4. Encourage His Positive Traits
• Some children can be rude and single out your child for being highly sensitive. Help your child to overcome these issues by highlighting his virtues.
• Show him how he can use his skills to his advantage. Tell him that being sensitive is good because he feels for others. Not everyone can do that.
• Your child may have an amazing imagination, he may be extremely creative, can be a wonderful listener, may perceive things much better and have a host of skills that not all children have.
• Help your child to realize these qualities and help him hone them more.

5. Guide Him Slowly
• Your highly sensitive child may find it very difficult to make certain choices. Your child may want to stay out of difficult or unfamiliar situations. He may not want to interact in a social gathering and be exceptionally shy. Help him face to these social situations by guiding him in interaction with others.
• If you feel you are not able to convince him, do not punish him. Speak to him and discuss your concerns. Tell him why you feel doing things a certain way can help him. Your highly sensitive child will understand your logic much better than other children of his age. Share with him all the reasons you have for asking him to follow your advice.
• Your child may not show any immediate improvement, but he may evolve gradually.

6. Take Baby Steps And Work As A Team
• Your support can help your child in a big way. Parenting the sensitive child includes a lot of support. There will be many instances where your child will highly benefit from your role as a partner than just a parent.
• For instance, your child may find it difficult to make friends in a new school or class. Help him out by planning individual interactions. You can arrange for separate play dates at your place where your child can interact with one or few new friends. It will help him gradually break the ice and get more comfortable and confident.

7. Don’t Apologize On His Behalf
• As a parent, you may sometimes apologize on your child’s behalf when you feel he isn’t socially comfortable. Stop apologizing on behalf of your highly sensitive child if you feel he made a social mistake. Understand that he is finding it challenging to adjust and is having a difficult time.
• If you apologize to others for your child’s behavior, it immediately sends out a wrong message. Your child will feel that he is a cause of embarrassment for you. It will make your child an introvert, and he may feel uncomfortable discussing his feelings with you later.
• Accept your child the way he is and support him in a crowd.

8. Plan Ahead
• Sudden situations can be very difficult for your highly sensitive child to handle. Parenting a sensitive child in this situation can be done the this way:
• You already know that your child does not like big interactions and social gatherings. Hoping that maybe it will work and planning something without his knowledge may prove a disaster instead of a success.
• It is good to first plan out things with your highly sensitive child. Sit down with him and take him through all that you are planning. Tell him why you feel he should go ahead with it even if he feels uncomfortable. Tell him about all the fun you can have together and how much he and everyone else will enjoy.
• Tell him he can always take a break with you in the middle of the event if he does not like it. Ask your child if he would like to help you plan things. Involve him in the preparation activities to help him cope with the situation.

9. Teach Your Child How To Manage A Crisis
• Your highly sensitive child may often not be able to cope up with a social situation. Even though you are always by your child’s side, there may be times when he has to manage alone. It could be in school, in class or at the house of a friend or relative.
• Teach your child ways in which he can calm down and control his anxieties. Repeating ‘it’s okay, I can handle this’ or ‘it will be over soon’ and ‘I can do it’ can help him feel better. Teach him to chant these magical words softly.
• Also, teach your child some simple deep breathing exercises. It will help your child during sudden panic attacks or anxiety episodes, when you may not be around to help him.

10. Stay Calm
• It is an extremely crucial parenting mantra. It is normal that you may sometimes lose your cool as a parent, especially when all your efforts to help go waste. Understand that this is not a condition but a personality trait. You just need to learn to start looking at things from his perspective.
• Do not feel guilty if your best strategies are not working. Stay calm and give yourself some time. Take a break and ask your partner for help, especially if you feel you may lose your temper.

11. See Sensitivity As A Gift
• Sometimes it is frustrating when your child is unable to handle situations or is crying a lot or avoiding social gatherings. You need to empathize their situation and identify their talents. Sensitive children are often gifted with various arts and skills; you just have to help them identify their potential and help them with it. Tell your kids about famous people who have their traits.

12. Focus On Strengths
• Remembering how your child is talented or how he handles situations is important. This way if you can be aware and accept their challenges, you can help them to train themselves to be more confident. Talk to your kid about the positive aspects of being sensitive.

-momjunction.com-

 

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